Shahroo Izadi

So now I'm involved in the community.

Someone's expecting me tomorrow.

Someone's dependent on me.

Someone to love, somewhere to live, something to do.

We used to say when I worked in Birmingham.

I love that.

So more and more, I just became obsessed with understanding what was it that got people to change after generations of really ingrained habits.

And self-compassion just kept coming through because I noticed that the opposite.

Actually, if you beat yourself up about things, if you're spiraling, yes, it's not kind, but it's also it's not common sense.

It doesn't build a mastery in anything.

If I wanted to learn something now, if I said, Davina, you want to learn to do something you've never managed to do in the past, you wouldn't expect yourself to be perfect.

But when it's shame driven and you have a legacy of, oh, I always mess up at this point.

Well, that's just a fluke.

I'll start again on Monday.

You forget that ultimately behavioral change is doing something in a row until it's easy.

Yes.

It's skill building.

It stops becoming mastery.

when it becomes personal.

This is what I noticed.