Shaka Senghor

House of Healing.

And I started reading this book, and one of the things that struck me is it talked about resolving conflict by being able to see the little kid inside the person you're in argument with.

That changed how I oriented myself toward the end of my incarceration.

And that's the first time I was like, man, this is like you can you can you can love on yourself when you see the kid and other people.

And once I once I started seeing that in other men, I was like, oh, this is a temper tantrum.

Like, he doesn't want beef.

He's literally having a temper tantrum because he can't name the thing.

He can't articulate that whatever happened between us caused him anxiety or triggered some unhealed trauma.

But I can see it as clear as day.

And it literally changed how I oriented myself in that environment.

And, you know, I was able to resolve conflict instantaneously by being empathetic and compassionate while still being fun and who I am.

But I don't have to tear you down or destroy you or stab you or bludgeon you.

in order for us to arrive at something that honors both of our humanity.

And that showed up in work life.

It shows up in my social impact work today.

It's like whenever I see an adult having a moment, I'm like, oh, they're just having that temper tantrum.

But it doesn't go away.

Like that trauma...

that we experienced early in childhood and how we learn to resolve that, it doesn't go away.

Our mind has no judgment with trauma, right?