Shaka Senghor

And that's the thing.

I think culturally, we get into comparative analysis.

That's just the way we tell stories in the world.

But trauma is trauma.

You know?

And that...

You don't have to go, you know, that's why the subtitle was about the hidden prisons.

There's even one part where I talk about well-intended prisons, where it's like, you don't even realize this thing is holding you back because on the outside, it doesn't look harmful.

But it's like you're in a relationship, you break up with this person, but you know, like we're broken up, but we'll remain friends forever.

But you say you want to get married and you want to have a relationship, but you have a whole thing that's anchoring your anchor to because you haven't cut it loose.

Yes.

You know, it's the helicopter parent.

No helicopter parent is sitting out like, hey, I'm going to be a bad parent.

They think that what they're doing is protecting, but it's preventing their child from building resilience.

It's preventing them from making choices, et cetera.

It's well-intended.

And so that's the hidden part of all of these things where we started to compare ourselves to others' experience.

And we were talking earlier where 19 years is no different to me than 19 minutes.

of losing your freedom, your dignity, being abused, whatever that brings up.

Like you don't have to compare it.