Shaka Senghor

And I decided to write my mother down.

Because I had this experience where I thought I had forgiven my mother for the abuses and all the things as a child.

And what I did is that I told her I forgave her because it was a noble thing and it was all about my ego.

And you didn't feel it.

I didn't feel it, but I also attached something to it.

Wow.

is that now she has to change and become this mother that I desire.

You put a condition on it.

Condition.

Forgiveness with a condition really isn't forgiveness.

It's not forgiveness, right.

And so that's when I realized that true forgiveness is really about letting go of a moment.

And that person doesn't have to change.

They don't have to be receptive.

They don't have to be anything.

If you desire to be free, then you have to free yourself.

And when I did that, it just changed the dynamic of my relationship with my mother, where I feel more like the parent now.

And the power and the beauty of it is that I get a chance to love on that little girl who was hurt, that turned into the hurt mother who hurt her kids.

And just reimagine a new way of being.

Yes.