Shane Parrish

And then we sort of shortened it to like gas energy.

or water, are you putting gasoline on the situation, which means I'm escalating it?

And I'm not judging what they're doing.

I'm just making them pause and reflect.

So it's not about me interjecting and saying, don't do that.

Because I find, you know, as they get older, that method of parenting, you switch to coaching.

So my kids are now 13 and 14.

So if I start with that, telling them what to do, that's not very effective.

But if I pause and say, hey,

gas or water, then they can think for themselves and they can choose whether to move forward with what they're doing.

But now they're more aware of the consequences.

It's like somebody, I tap them on the shoulder and be like, you're making a decision right now.

Is this what you want to be doing?

Yeah.

And then they're like, no, this isn't what I want to be doing.

And they come to that conclusion on their own, which I think is very powerful for them.

Yeah.

So if you know you're making a decision, we generally get it correct.

So most books on decision making, most classes on decision making are

are all about being more rational, you know, and they're not very practical.