Shane Parrish

There's spreadsheets, there's sort of like decision tree.

I've never really witnessed anybody fill all this out or do that.

But what they're really doing is they're taking you out of the moment and they're getting you to pause and think.

But if you know you should be pausing and thinking, we're generally pretty good.

We're directionally correct.

But a lot of the time, the things that get us into trouble, we don't know that we're making a decision.

We don't know the future of that decision.

There are these small tidbits, whether it's celebrities going to court battle with each other over statues in their yard.

You can imagine being at home with your partner or your spouse and

And what starts as emptying the dishwasher ends up into not speaking with each other.

And that's that slow escalation again in these ordinary moments.

And what happens in these ordinary moments is we don't know we're making a decision.

If somebody taps us on the shoulder and says, hey, gas or water,

you're going to pause and be like, no, I don't want this to happen.

I don't want to derail my weekend because of a dishwasher incident.

And all the energy that you're spending on those moments comes at the expense of enjoying your weekend with your partner or being on vacation or all of these things.

So my belief is that these ordinary moments actually accumulate into these advantages or disadvantages.

And the advantages are, do people want to work with me?

Am I hard to get along with?

Do I do the little things right?