Shannon Curry

It's true.

It's a certain intelligence, awareness, and attunement.

And then on top of that, conscientiousness is motivated.

So you can't be on your ass all day and be conscientious because then you can't

meet the needs that you anticipate about the person.

So conscientious is that guy who drives the car around in the rainstorm so his wife's hair doesn't get met.

It's my husband who checks my alarm for me every morning because he knows I'm terrible at time management and he makes sure that I set it a reasonable amount of time before my first meeting and not the 20 minutes I think I need.

And then he'll come wake me up with a cup of coffee.

That is ultimate conscientiousness.

And it is true.

I mean, I will tell you, as somebody who's with a conscientious partner, your love increases over time as you continue to feel grateful and admiring of that person.

The second one.

You want somebody who is low in a big five personality trait called neuroticism.

You want somebody emotionally stable in a way.

Now, this doesn't mean you can't have somebody who doesn't get the blues or struggle with mental health issues.

Trust me, Ty is with somebody who, you know, I'm all over the place.

But you want somebody who kind of owns their shit and isn't going to just

Be emotionally unstable all over.

You want somebody who is generally happy and has some life satisfaction.

Having a partner who has serious, not mental health issues, but unmitigated emotional distress and instability is really hard.