Shannon Curry

We're sitting there and Tai Toshiro starts talking about his research and how he found that most people are, you know, signing this agreement, getting married and doing it based on the love endorphins.

And really only about 35% of anybody who's married is actually happy.

And he said, so then, you know... It's a pretty low number.

Exactly.

But here's what I love about Tai Tashiro is he didn't stop there.

He wanted to know what those people who were happy had in common.

And then same thing with the people who were unhappy.

He found a couple fascinating patterns.

So the couples who were happy...

tended to rate their partners higher in three different traits.

And I love talking about this because if you are somebody who can follow instructions, you can find this.

I mean, very easily.

Those three traits tend to be conscientiousness, okay?

And I love the word conscientiousness because it's not just kindness.

Kindness is a good way to think of it, but...

You can be kind and kind of be a pushover and that's not attractive.

Conscientiousness is smart, attentive.

It's somebody who reads into a text message and thinks, wow, she was making herself very vulnerable there.

That's conscientiousness.

I appreciate it.