Shawn French

And then we come to the conclusion, whether it's her upset or me upset, it's like, well,

This is my issue to handle because your intentions are pure.

I don't know what happened to you during the day because a lot of times and this is another great point.

We don't truly know how much each other go through.

Right.

I only know of what my wife tells me.

That happens to her at school, right?

Between the students and administration, everything like that.

I only tell her certain amount of things because not to hide things, but it's like sometimes I just get so overwhelmed.

Like I can't live that again, right?

So we are not living separate lives, but we're not communicating everything.

So it's harder to understand, right?

what that person is going through in order for them to be, you know, if we're laying in bed and like, she's scrolling for 30 minutes, that shouldn't offend me.

I should be saying, well, if that's what she needs right now, then let it be like, I'm cool with it.

And I just think that like,

The accountability portion though, to understand like, hey, this is my issue.

I really want to dive into that because if we can take more responsibility for our own feelings, our own triggers, then we can communicate them much better, but also relieve some of that tension that we're creating ourselves.

Very well said.

You mentioned default parent.

That's very interesting.