Sheleana Aiyana

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666 appearances 1 recordings 1 series first heard Jun 2026 last heard 26 Jun

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The School of Greatness · Why the Wrong Person Feels Like Home | Sheleana Aiyana · 26 Jun 2026 podcast

Well, I was really looking for someone to affirm me from a very young age.

And so all of my relationships up until my early 20s were very abusive, were really unsafe.

And there's one particular relationship that I was lucky to have survived.

But it was in that relationship where I actually remember looking in the mirror and I didn't recognize myself.

And all of a sudden I had this opening and I just saw myself on stage speaking to women about abuse and healing and recovering.

And this was like almost 10 years before I ever began Rising Woman or started anything like that.

But I had this feeling and I remember telling the guy who was, you know, he was my abuser and I said, I'm actually going to be speaking on stage one day about these experiences and I'm going to be helping women.

He was like, okay.

For a little while.

I mean, it's almost harder to leave once there's been abuse because when you look at the brain, and this is just the science aspect of it, is the brain changes when there's abuse.

And it's sort of like these highs and lows that create deeper bonding.

So the more ups and downs we have with somebody, the deeper we bond, which is like the trauma bond that we all hear about.

And this toxic relationship, which is why so many people...

are like, oh, well, you know, the sex is so good or we're just so passionate together, but everything is chaos.

And the deeper we go, the harder it is to get out of that.

And on top of it, a lot of us who have experienced abuse

have sort of normalized chaos and dysfunction.

I grew up witnessing abuse.

I grew up witnessing domestic violence in homes that I was in or around me because I didn't grow up in safe areas.

And so for me, I knew that it wasn't a good thing, but it also wasn't that different from what I had known.

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