Siri Hustvedt

we did talk about that those letters as in a kind of mythical way almost right and i think i needed to write them um i needed to say you know i'm you know i love you and and i did i mean i had the oomph to say

And I think you love me.

So come on back.

And he did.

And then we were together after that ever since.

Yes, well, once each, we unconsciously stole an entire sentence from the other.

And now I'm trying to remember where they were from, but I do mention it in the book.

And we were both amazed and we changed them.

So there are no absolutely plagiarized stolen sentences in either of our books.

But yes, I think that this happens and it's something I'm interested in and I think it's hard to study.

But when people have lived together for a long time,

there are associations that accumulate.

So if we were at a dinner party, for example, and someone told a story, I could look across the table at Paul, and I knew we had exactly the same response, and we'd just see who was going to tell the story.

And, you know, that happened over and over again.

And that's why I quote this in the book, Paul said many years ago, he said, you know, Siri, I think if we lived together for another 100 years, we'd be the same person.

Well, it was something that especially happened over the years.

And Paul knew that I would be miffed about it because philosophers or neuroscientists or people that I had read, it would always be attributed to Paul and never attributed to me.

He would often say, for example, in interviews, well, Siri told me about this or that.

But when it was published, I was missing.

And so he became a firebrand feminist over the years.