Sonia Gray

I was an athlete and doing all sorts of things and she just kind of wrapped me up.

So I didn't really know that I wasn't coping until I left home and everything fell apart.

And then, you know, all these sort of anxiety issues and depression for years and years and years.

And the ADHD diagnosis, when I finally accepted it, revealed that anxiety and depression was because of undiagnosed ADHD.

And

The thing is, though, that you kind of go, oh, I've got a diagnosis.

I've accepted it.

Right.

That's the beginning.

Yeah.

Then the real work starts of really understanding yourself, of kind of starting from the beginning and going, who am I?

Yeah, and also sometimes with family and friends,

You've played a particular role in their lives, you know, your whole life.

And when you start changing, it can be hard for them to adjust.

Because they're going, who are you?

A lot of women with ADHD are the people pleasers, the perfectionists, the ones that look after everyone.

The nurturers.

Yes, the nurturers.

And it does often coincide with midlife.

It's like, I don't want to and I can't do that anymore.