Sonja Lyubomirsky

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1,409 appearances 3 recordings 3 series first heard Feb 2026 last heard 25 Jun

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Modern Wisdom · Why Nobody Feels Loved Anymore - Sonja Lyubomirsky - #1115 · 25 Jun 2026 podcast

You know, showing something genuine about me, you know, that, yeah, that shows you who I am.

And actually someone was just telling me like they had one time they were vulnerable and they really got punished for it.

They got judged for it.

It was used against them.

It was one out of a hundred times.

And yet they now don't want to reveal anything ever about themselves.

And we kind of overgeneralize from that.

Yeah, exactly.

But bad is stronger than good.

So we remember those bad events.

It also suggests that maybe parenting, something that parents should emphasize is like to model kind of sharing and sharing and listening.

And I should say that, you know, we really can't talk about sharing without talking about how the person responds, as you say.

And so actually feeling loved for me, I would argue, starts with curiosity, right?

So it starts with really you being curious about me and asking deep questions.

And then I know I can share.

I feel safe.

I feel inspired to share.

So I'm not just sharing out of the blue and I have to guess whether you care or not or whether it's going to be uncomfortable or whether you're going to judge me or use it against me.

So it really starts with curiosity.

And genuine curiosity is so rare.

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