Sonja Lyubomirsky

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1,409 appearances 3 recordings 3 series first heard Feb 2026 last heard 25 Jun

Sonja Lyubomirsky’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.

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It must be so painful for you to have a nail in your head.

And she's like, ah.

And that's the point of the video, whereas he keeps trying to give her advice, you should take the nail out of your head.

And then you won't feel so much in pain and you won't shred your sweaters.

And I just think, yeah, it's like, again, the pendulum has swung so far.

Because sometimes people kind of need, like fucking need advice, right?

They need to be told, take the nail out of the head.

But I agree that at first you want to validate and then give advice later.

But... Well, there's one kind of therapy speak that I think is so amazing and effective, and it's nonviolent communication, right?

It's using I statements, right?

So, I feel hurt when you do this, as opposed to, why do you always do this?

You know, what's wrong with you?

And so, yeah, that is just so effective, has been shown to be effective in so many contexts.

And people are doing it more.

Again, instead of accusing the other person, it's about you.

So it's not like you're doing this.

It's like, I feel this way when I see this.

Or it's my understanding.

Or the story I'm telling myself is that you're... And then you ask, and then you have a request.

So I'm a big believer in nonviolent communication.

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