Sonja Lyubomirsky
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1,409 appearances
3 recordings
3 series
first heard Feb 2026
last heard 25 Jun
Sonja Lyubomirsky’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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And so I'm talking to the coach, and I'm doing that.
I'm minimizing.
I'm thinking, oh, well, because of this and this reason, they must have done it.
And the coach said, Sonia, just stop it right now.
And he said, skip right over the rumination and the justification, the rationalization, and right onto sadness.
Go straight to sadness.
Which is just be sad that your friend did this, right?
Which is kind of like what you're saying, sort of sit in it and then you can, you know, rationalize.
But the rationalization, like, you know, there's a fine line between kind of condoning, justifying and compassion, right?
When is it compassion where you see someone and they do something kind of terrible and you can see, like this happened once with my friends where this guy said something really terrible in a text, right?
And we're like, oh, what a jerk.
And one of my friends said, you know, when I read that text, I see the little boy inside of him, or I see the teenage boy who used to be rejected by girls.
And so whatever, he got triggered.
It's not excusing or condoning or justifying, but it's having compassion.
And I don't know, it really helps me to see people in this sort of more complex light.
Again, it doesn't mean I want to hang out with him, but I, again, I think that compassion is really helpful.
I think when people kind of feel a little, like, I guess when they start to feel invisible and the other person stops noticing, well, stops asking questions.
We talked about that.
Stops being curious about you.
We often stop being curious about the people we've known the longest, right?
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