Sonja Lyubomirsky

And the main reason was he just didn't text me like often enough or kind of speedily enough.

He took so long to respond to my messages.

And I often think that the texting is like the currency of modern relationships, right?

That's what a lot of us are doing.

In relationships, it's texting.

And I realized later, it's just the lack of texting, that lack of responsiveness did not make me feel loved.

And that was at the heart of it.

It's like, I don't care enough.

Yeah, like the worst interpretation is like something like, I don't care enough about your feelings.

Like, I know you're waiting.

And it's like this thing, this idea that he's like, if you really loved me, you would care, you would know how important it is to respond right away and you still are not doing it.

And so that's what's going on in my head.

Yes, and we actually have had that texting conversation repeatedly before the breakup.

And he would apologize and he would sort of do better for a little while.

And he would explain all the ways that he did show love to me, just not through texting.

And just in the end, it just wasn't enough.

So I realized one day that I just wasn't feeling as loved as I wanted to by my adult daughter.

She doesn't sort of share that much with me.

I just realized that I just wasn't feeling as loved as I wanted to be.

I think it's a fairly common situation.