Sonja Lyubomirsky

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1,409 appearances 3 recordings 3 series first heard Feb 2026 last heard 25 Jun

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It also turns out that the more love languages your partner shows love to you, the better.

So it's not about the matching.

That's the matching idea that really we've debunked.

But I think it's a great heuristic.

So I like to talk about it.

So I'll bring it in.

So it is funny.

Like I'm like bringing it in and yet I've debunked it.

But yeah, anyway, this example, I was dating someone who was sending me gifts and that was his love language.

And I just wasn't reading it.

Like I wasn't seeing that.

Like I wasn't seeing that that's an expression of love.

So that does happen sometimes when you're just not, yeah, you're not taking it in whatever the person is doing.

Their love language is different from yours.

If you don't love yourself very much, it's hard to see signs of other people's love as genuine.

Now, everything we talk about is really much more nuanced than a simple explanation.

So, for example, a lot of people think if you don't love yourself, you can't really love other people.

I think that's a myth.

And I think Esther Perel actually was someone I heard talking about that.

She said, no, you learn to love yourself also in the context of relationships.

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