Sonja Lyubomirsky

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1,409 appearances 3 recordings 3 series first heard Feb 2026 last heard 25 Jun

Sonja Lyubomirsky’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.

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There are walls around our friends, colleagues, neighbors, even family.

We build those walls to protect ourselves, yet they also keep us from ever really letting anyone in.

They keep us from becoming truly known.

So this is literally my number one happiness tip, the one thing I wish everybody knew.

We will feel more loved if we become more known, if we learn to talk to people in a way that takes down the walls between us.

The secret is super simple, yet I think massively profound.

If you do one thing today to be happier, let it be this.

Approach your next conversation differently from what you've done before.

first by sharing from the heart.

You take down your walls by sharing something real about yourself, not just your highlight reel.

Whether with your best friend, colleague or first date, be brave enough to let others see the real you.

Here's a simple practice.

Start small.

Pacing is really important.

So don't immediately share your deepest secret or trauma.

If you go deep too fast, everyone's walls will come right back up again.

Instead, in the beginning, maybe say something honest, like, I've had a rough day, instead of I'm fine.

Recent studies show that people will like you more when the conversation is deeper as opposed to shallower.

Two, you help the other person lower their walls when you listen to them in order to learn not to respond.

Quiet your voice so theirs can be heard.

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