Steph Claire Smith

So if it's not kind of, if you're not able to, it's almost like compartmentalizing it into like, okay, this is unfortunate.

I hope one day we do have a good relationship.

Yeah.

There is nothing I can do about it so I'm going to put it – I'm going to separate it from myself and it's got nothing to do with me.

And I think that is the step because if the question was posed but they hadn't said anything, then my first piece of advice would be to not necessarily speak up yourself because that's really uncomfortable.

Like who the fuck wants to like –

talk directly to their parents-in-laws about how they're making them feel like that.

That's a very secure person to be able to do that.

I think it would be very fair to get your partner to do that.

But I think the fact that he has and nothing's changed, it is, it does get to a point where it's like, it's just going to continue to cloud and kill you.

And yes, the idea of living without the support of your extended family would be so hard and

I think in my personal opinion, what would be harder is continuing to have that expectation and it not be met.

I agree.

I agree.

And also just note that you don't have to let anyone treat you like this.

Just because they're your parents-in-law, it doesn't mean you can't stand out for yourself.

So if you get to a point where you're like, actually, because that's the thing, like when else in life would you let someone treat you this way?

Yeah, exactly.

Exactly.

And just keep showing up and being polite.