Steph Claire Smith

She's from a hardworking class family.

And so she's not accepted into their family.

And the reason for that is because – and the mother is the one that won't accept, the mother of the son –

And then we find out at the end that the mother of the son was not accepted into that family herself.

So she's then projecting what she had to go through back onto the new daughter in law coming in.

And so I think that's also something that everyone has their own shit.

But I think what's really difficult is you need to work out a way because if your husband, it's probably great they live overseas, to be honest, if this is their attitude.

Oh, yeah, my God.

Imagine if they were local.

If your husband-to-be is, and you know what, it might be the fact that I'm not sure where you live or if, like, for example, if you live in Australia and your husband is from the UK, for example, and you're now living in Australia, they might resent you for the fact that they don't get to see their son all the time because he now lives in the country where you are from.

Like, I don't know if that's the case.

I don't have that detail, but that could also, and that has nothing to do with you at all.

No, no.

So I think that's the first thing, just work out a way that you can separate yourself from their problem because it has nothing to do with you.

It is completely on them.

I think that's number one because otherwise this is going to hover over you.

And I know of circumstances, like I have friends where this has happened to them and it just becomes a cloud in your relationship forever until you're able to let it go.

And it clouds every moment where...

society kind of tells us we should feel a way or as you said, our family should feel a certain way.

So engagement, wedding, pregnancy, like having kids, if that is something that you want to do, whatever that is, it will always come back and it will always be hard.