Stephanie Harrison

Those types of questions can help you to tease it out.

But of course, any goal that you have that comes from within in that way, no matter what domain it's in, can be intrinsically motivated.

And so I always want to tell people, don't

Chase an extrinsic motivation that doesn't belong to you.

Find the one that exists within you because it is so much stronger than anything out there.

Essentially, things like depression, anxiety, lack of self-worth, difficulty with resilience.

And by doing so, you will be able to get all of the things that you're looking for.

The most ironic thing, I think, the finding that most surprised me and really opened my eyes to this was learning that people who pursue extrinsic goals are much more likely to give up.

Happiness, well-being, mental health, a sense of accomplishment, the satisfaction of your needs and the people in your life.

All of those things are fulfilled if we discover that intrinsic motivation within us.

They're much more likely to have a hard time pursuing them.

And it makes sense when you really break it down because you don't have that real motivation driving you.

You're doing it to get approval or to please somebody or to try and convey a certain level of image or whatever it is.

So you don't have that real inner motivation.

And I think that that inner motivation is the most powerful thing in the world.

We've seen what people can do when they are really motivated.

I generally recommend starting with just taking an audit of what you're doing.

They do crazy, wild, amazing things, right?

What are you spending your time on right now?

Because as we talked about, we're all driven by goals, even if we don't have a conscious awareness of them.