Stephanie R. Yates-Anyabwile

But I have some family members that I'm very close to.

That kind of thing, they would never do.

They would never ask because they're just that cognizant of being an inconvenience or feeling like a burden on someone.

I think...

I do believe that there are things that can be done about people pleasing.

I don't think that it's something that is solutionless.

I think the first thing is admitting to ourselves that something is bothering us or could bother us and feeling comfortable to even just communicate that possibility to ourselves.

And as we get more comfortable with admitting, because sometimes it's like after the fact, you realize like, damn, I was, oh, can I cuss?

Sure.

Okay.

It's kind of like, man, I was cold.

And so maybe in a situation with a stranger, no, but maybe you start with your close friends just saying, I'm dreading this, but I'm willing to do it for you or family.

Yeah.

That's okay.

I get it.

Definitely agree.

I think...

And it's hard for me to engage in like more surface level conversations because as a therapist, I go right to it.

But I do think it's interesting how you said that bad things almost always do happen.

That's an interesting understanding of the world and life.