Stephanie R. Yates-Anyabwile

something fail sometimes I wait months before I even tell him about a certain project just because I'm nervous it's not going to pan out and I'm worried about he would never say anything mean you know my dad's not like that but I just don't want him to feel disappointed even though he's not expressing that I just internalize it in a certain way

Yeah.

I think a big moment for me was when I was buying my house.

And at that point, it was a crazy summer.

I got engaged, married, bought a house all in the same summer.

Everybody thought I was pregnant because it was happening so fast.

I wasn't pregnant.

I was just ready to be married.

We've been together for 60 years.

And I think that

In that moment when I was buying my house and I was asking my dad for his feedback on everything and I was just, I needed his approval.

Like, what do you think about this?

I don't want to make the wrong decision.

It hit me, like my dad's never bought a house before.

You know, at that point, I was living an experience outside of his experience.

Like, I couldn't go to him as the person that could give me all of the advice.

And he always has opinions.

You know, he definitely wanted me to have... You know, he had recommendations for who should do my inspection and everything.

But he'd never bought a house before.

We'd lived in a house growing up, and my mom bought it before she met him.