Steven Wolt

And so part of recovery is being able to regulate your own emotions.

Part of people think that recovery looks like this.

It doesn't.

It looks like a chart of the Dow Jones.

And so what I end up doing in recovery is just kind of softening the peaks and valleys so that I could exist in life and not have to numb the pain.

of the way I was living my life.

And so, part of that involved being able to have a relationship with my sexuality that's beautiful and empowering and made me feel good about myself as a man.

That's so missed in recovery circles.

Everything is about abstinence.

And I get that.

There's value in abstinence.

But if you truly want to transcend this compulsion, you have to build the life that's more enjoyable, more purposeful than the life you were living.

Or else you're going to be vulnerable to returning to it.

So part of that means like, dude, Steve, you've got to learn how to be in a relationship.

You've got to learn how to experience the joys of your sexuality.

You have to learn how to experience meaningful connection in order to truly transcend this compulsion.

I live a life today where I don't need pornography.

I don't need alcohol.

I don't need drugs.

This is like a journey around really healthy masculinity.