Steven

who I remember a conversation with him in the middle of the pandemic where he like turned to me and said, it's people that are young and healthy that are ending up in hospital beds. And I remember saying to him, I was like, I was living in his house.

who I remember a conversation with him in the middle of the pandemic where he like turned to me and said, it's people that are young and healthy that are ending up in hospital beds. And I remember saying to him, I was like, I was living in his house.

I was like, no, I don't think that, I think the NHS website says it's people that are like out of shape and slightly older that are ending up in hospital beds. And he like was like really, really triggered by that. And I remember he's like a good friend of mine. So we had a conversation about it. And we dug and dug and dug, because we're, like, really good friends.

I was like, no, I don't think that, I think the NHS website says it's people that are like out of shape and slightly older that are ending up in hospital beds. And he like was like really, really triggered by that. And I remember he's like a good friend of mine. So we had a conversation about it. And we dug and dug and dug, because we're, like, really good friends.

Like, why is it that all of us as, like, boys, we know in, like, the group chat when we're bantering, all we've got to do is say, like, now you're wrong. Wait, one more thing. One thing. And it's, like, Red Mist. Yeah. And we had, like, a really open conversation about it over, really over the last, like, year and a half. And he said... When I was younger, all of the teachers thought I was stupid.

Like, why is it that all of us as, like, boys, we know in, like, the group chat when we're bantering, all we've got to do is say, like, now you're wrong. Wait, one more thing. One thing. And it's, like, Red Mist. Yeah. And we had, like, a really open conversation about it over, really over the last, like, year and a half. And he said... When I was younger, all of the teachers thought I was stupid.

And also, I then got bullied on the playground because people thought I was stupid. And then I found text messages from my grandmother to my mum where they said I was stupid. And then I found on my report card... They'd basically written me off. So 30 years later, when we're having a conversation, just a trivial conversation about the pandemic, when I go, no, I don't think that's right.

And also, I then got bullied on the playground because people thought I was stupid. And then I found text messages from my grandmother to my mum where they said I was stupid. And then I found on my report card... They'd basically written me off. So 30 years later, when we're having a conversation, just a trivial conversation about the pandemic, when I go, no, I don't think that's right.

And I pull up the website and stuff. And he sees the red mist, as me and him call it now. It all stems back 30 years to this experience on the playground. So like you said, it could be proving someone wrong. But in that case, it's actually like proving the bullies right. It's proving all the people that hurt him wrong. Right. And it's showing up 30 years later as this red mist.

And I pull up the website and stuff. And he sees the red mist, as me and him call it now. It all stems back 30 years to this experience on the playground. So like you said, it could be proving someone wrong. But in that case, it's actually like proving the bullies right. It's proving all the people that hurt him wrong. Right. And it's showing up 30 years later as this red mist.

The story ends with him going to a therapist and speaking about it. And he's resolved it now to the extent to which he can, where now when he feels that feeling, he's able to point it. He knows what it is. And so it doesn't make the decision.

The story ends with him going to a therapist and speaking about it. And he's resolved it now to the extent to which he can, where now when he feels that feeling, he's able to point it. He knows what it is. And so it doesn't make the decision.

If you're dealing with someone in your romantic relationship at work, whatever, that is easily triggered in that regard. What advice would you give to the person dealing with that person who is like continually easily triggered? They see the red mist all the time. It's almost impossible to talk to them because they immediately just flip to 10.

If you're dealing with someone in your romantic relationship at work, whatever, that is easily triggered in that regard. What advice would you give to the person dealing with that person who is like continually easily triggered? They see the red mist all the time. It's almost impossible to talk to them because they immediately just flip to 10.

They avoid the difficult conversation. You feel now that you can't even have that conversation with them because they're immediately going to gaslight you or they're just going to go straight to 10 and they're going to be flooded. Right. You know, that phrase that I've heard before about like when the brain gets flooded, like they just get overwhelmed in there. Yes.

They avoid the difficult conversation. You feel now that you can't even have that conversation with them because they're immediately going to gaslight you or they're just going to go straight to 10 and they're going to be flooded. Right. You know, that phrase that I've heard before about like when the brain gets flooded, like they just get overwhelmed in there. Yes.

What do you do with that kind of person? You just curious or...?

What do you do with that kind of person? You just curious or...?

So many people are so interested in understanding how to deal with disrespectful people.

So many people are so interested in understanding how to deal with disrespectful people.