Steven

So after I heard that, do I just go out on the street and start walking with a bit more status and with my shoulders back? Or am I still going to fail at some point? This is, I think, when I remember when I was younger and I started learning about psychology and human behavior and stuff,

Even though I knew the information, I think there was probably 990 other things that I was getting wrong that were projecting low value or come disrespect me or I actually don't have a high sense of self-esteem that I couldn't see.

Even though I knew the information, I think there was probably 990 other things that I was getting wrong that were projecting low value or come disrespect me or I actually don't have a high sense of self-esteem that I couldn't see.

So if I can control this one little thing, it doesn't necessarily mean the other 999 things that matter in non-verbal communication are going to be aligned if I'm not truly believing that I'm confident and high value in myself. So fake it till you make it or do you have to do some inner work?

So if I can control this one little thing, it doesn't necessarily mean the other 999 things that matter in non-verbal communication are going to be aligned if I'm not truly believing that I'm confident and high value in myself. So fake it till you make it or do you have to do some inner work?

A Navy SEAL.

A Navy SEAL.

How do we get there? How did you get there?

How do we get there? How did you get there?

I completely agree. I mean, like, obviously running businesses and stuff is a prime example where you're just getting fucking great news or bad news all the time. And to even try and move emotionally with whatever the news is today in your inbox would just be, I'd be like keeled over on the floor dead. However... There's so many people that are listening that would say, Evie, I agree.

I completely agree. I mean, like, obviously running businesses and stuff is a prime example where you're just getting fucking great news or bad news all the time. And to even try and move emotionally with whatever the news is today in your inbox would just be, I'd be like keeled over on the floor dead. However... There's so many people that are listening that would say, Evie, I agree.

But my nervous system just seems to run the shop. Like I just seem to just get dragged around by good things and bad things. And I catastrophize when something bad goes wrong. And I just, I know what you're saying is true, Evie, but like, how do I get there? What's like, what's step one in becoming that person that isn't swung up and down on the rollercoaster of life?

But my nervous system just seems to run the shop. Like I just seem to just get dragged around by good things and bad things. And I catastrophize when something bad goes wrong. And I just, I know what you're saying is true, Evie, but like, how do I get there? What's like, what's step one in becoming that person that isn't swung up and down on the rollercoaster of life?

I think what's really interesting as well in that cancel-cancel example is you're almost talking to someone and that person is yourself. And as you were saying, I was thinking, yeah, I think the fundamental underlying belief that you demonstrate and that that person's demonstrating is that they are not their thoughts. It's like they're talking to someone else.

I think what's really interesting as well in that cancel-cancel example is you're almost talking to someone and that person is yourself. And as you were saying, I was thinking, yeah, I think the fundamental underlying belief that you demonstrate and that that person's demonstrating is that they are not their thoughts. It's like they're talking to someone else.

Whereas most of us go through our life thinking that our thoughts are us. So if my brain starts going, oh my God, this is going to go so badly and then it's going to happen like this and then I'm going to lose my job. And you think that's yourself. And you don't think you could have a conversation with that voice. You know what I'm saying?

Whereas most of us go through our life thinking that our thoughts are us. So if my brain starts going, oh my God, this is going to go so badly and then it's going to happen like this and then I'm going to lose my job. And you think that's yourself. And you don't think you could have a conversation with that voice. You know what I'm saying?

I remember speaking to Mo Gordat on the podcast and he says that he's named his brain Becky so that he can do that, so that he can kind of detach from the thoughts. And so he'll say, Becky, I have a conversation with Becky, which I think is kind of smart now I think about it. It's not a bad way of detaching from your toxic thoughts.

I remember speaking to Mo Gordat on the podcast and he says that he's named his brain Becky so that he can do that, so that he can kind of detach from the thoughts. And so he'll say, Becky, I have a conversation with Becky, which I think is kind of smart now I think about it. It's not a bad way of detaching from your toxic thoughts.

There's an element of what you just said there, though, that raises another question, which is there's a reason why they were doing explosions in training. Because they are trying to fully simulate and put you through the real-world examples that you're going to go through so that you develop some resilience.