Suzanne Noble

we're going to do this.

It's going to be really good.

I'm going to take a shower.

I'm going to wear something sexy.

I'm going to think about what I'd really like to do.

I'm going to pull out my favorite toys or try some new ones that I've been given or whatever.

And I think for me now, it's about the anticipation is very much tied to how aroused or not aroused I am.

Right.

Yeah, and I think when I speak to other, when I speak to sex therapists and sexologists, they all acknowledge that one of the things about the menopause is that if your libido has taken a nosedive, that putting it in the diary, that doing whatever it takes to feel desirable and to feel aroused is necessary.

part of preparing for sex.

And I think that's for me become really important, which is, I guess, surprising when I look at some of the clubs and things I've been to.

It's like, even though I knew that sex is going to happen when I'm there, like just watching people now doesn't have the same thrill for me that it used to.

No, definitely not.

And I look at people, I'm like, yeah, I've seen people having sex before.

And, you know, that's parts are going into the other part.

Interesting.

You know, whereas, whereas if somebody sends me like a sexy text message, or,

says I can't wait to get my hands all over your hot body or something like my my brain starts going oh yeah I really want it I'm really looking forward to that like it has to be far more contextual yeah maybe that's great advice for guys that are listening for their wives who are maybe older maybe in menopause and need that kind of revving up you know

Yeah, definitely.

And I think a lot of women I know say to me, oh, but it's not like it used to be when I was younger.