Suzanne Noble

It's like, no, it's not.

I mean, I spoke to somebody today on my podcast and she was just like, oh, I tell couples that have like mismatched libidos or perhaps don't have that spontaneity and want to

just want to know like are you up for it because their partner isn't always up for it like put a chocolate in a cup in the morning and if another person puts the chocolate in the cup that means that it's on game on right that's fun like right like little make it a game like put create little signals somebody else told me just put a coffee cup on the counter and

And if the coffee cup goes back in the cupboard, that means it's not on.

If the coffee cup stays on the counter, that means it's on.

Like, you know, whatever you need to do to kind of indicate to your partner, like, yeah, I'm up for it.

Completely, completely.

And I think, you know, we just have to get used to the idea.

And that can be really fun.

I mean, like I said, I have a whole preparation that goes into my Sunday afternoons that is part of me feeling horny.

It's just...

It becomes a whole story that I tell myself about what's going to happen.

Yeah, completely.

And I always tell other women, you know, it's not that your libido is gone.

It's just you have to find new ways of uncovering it, of manifesting it.

And that could be like, what is it going to, you know, what makes you feel sexy?

Is it,

is it taking like a bath and you know doing your hair and putting on some high heels and some stockings and some sexy lingerie and when people say oh you know I don't feel that great about my body anymore and I think well just buy yourself like a really lovely silky robe and just keep it on like nobody says you have to be naked during sex like wear some crotchless undies like yeah or a peak

Totally, totally.

I mean, crotchless anything, I think it's just hot, right?