Tamsen Fadal

And that relationship has nothing to do with you anymore.

And him doing that might not be about you at all.

But I know it feels like he's probably speaking directly to you and being like, that's not what's happening.

But I think that it was a short, it seems like a short period of time that you were together.

So whatever went on there, if he's already moved on to somebody else quite so quickly, I don't think you want that.

kind of person in your life.

But the most important thing to do is protect yourself in this.

You've got to protect your mind, your mental space, your energy, your nervous system, all those things you need to protect.

And going there and living in their relationship is not going to protect that.

So please find one other thing to do and let me know how you're doing.

Just leave a message.

Let me know if that's helpful because we'd love to hear from you.

And I get it.

It can be really easy to do that and just kind of get caught up

and not realize what you're doing and how much time you're wasting, not going and finding maybe somebody else who would really enjoy your time.

I don't know.

I don't I don't know if he's if somebody does those things.

I mean, look, somebody obviously some people do those things on purpose, but don't let him win.

I know.

But look, watching him, watching him and stalking him and looking at him and seeing what they're doing is not is not helping anybody win by going and creating your own life.