Thais Gibson

So they end up as adults being very hot and cold because they have the anxious and the avoidance side to them.

And so they'll be like, come get close, come get close.

And you get close, they'll get back.

You're too close.

And then somebody moves away and they're like, oh, we are so far.

Like, come back close.

And so they sort of pinball a little bit in their relationships, especially the relationships where they feel the most vulnerable.

So they tend to be quite ambivalent.

So that's a fearful avoidant.

And then I'll go into dismissive avoidant, unless you have anything you want to add there.

They struggle a little bit until they do the work.

Yeah.

I was a fearful avoidant.

That's what I was.

That's part of how I got into this work.

Part of it, yeah, yeah.

So dismissive avoidant.

Dismissive avoidants are very different.

So they are, number one, their overarching theme in childhood is more childhood emotional neglect.

And sometimes you hear that and you think it's going to be really like overt, like parents are never home, child walks home from school, parents get home at midnight.