Thais Gibson

They learn to read between the lines.

They read like every little detail

micro-expression and body language and change in a tone of voice because that's how they've learned to attach.

So anxious people are like, let me get close to you.

And people with dismissive avoidance are like, let me keep space.

Fearful avoidance are like, let me notice every little thing about you so I can predict your future and I can know how to respond.

And it gives them that superpower in a way.

But often then when you have these wounds and then you jump to conclusions like, oh, something changed, something's off, you're going to abandon or betray me or you're trying to control me and you sort of jump to those conclusions, it makes for a really turbulent

set of relationships and lifestyle.

Yeah.

So really good question.

So you touched on something earlier and I sidetracked and forgot to come back to, but it's actually this.

It's that we, you were like, what causes that sort of attraction piece?

And this plays right into this, which is we are attracted to people.

So your conscious mind is responsible for three to 5% of all of your beliefs, your thoughts, your emotions, your actions, your subconscious and unconscious collectively are 95 to 97%.

And so what's really interesting is consciously, our conscious minds are logical, analytical minds, and our subconscious is our habituated self, our programming, our conditioning.

And our conscious mind will say, I want the emotionally available partner.

I want the person who is ready to be interrelated.

We'll say all the things in the world.

But secure people feel that consciously and subconsciously.