Thais Gibson

Great question.

So love bombing I think of as existing along a continuum.

Love bombing in extreme cases is usually because of narcissistic personality disorder.

And that's somebody love bombing with the premeditated intention to win you over as a means of control.

But what actually happens if we look way further down the continuum, love bombing can be more from a place.

Usually we're going to see anxious or fearful avoidance do love bombing.

And it's because, in a much lesser degree, and their relationship to it is not because let me win you over so that then you're addicted to me and I can control you.

It's from a place of that they usually, because of having so many core wounds and people pleasing behaviors as their adaptation to those core wounds, they have people on a pedestal.

And so you're going to love bomb somebody that you admire and you look up to and you want to win over and people please.

And so that's often what will happen is you get a lot more of those compliments and trying to win somebody over and charm them and all those things because of their own insecurity compared to how high they see other people that they're in relationships with.

That's a beautiful question.

So a couple of things.

The first answer is that in that early stage, you can have that conversation.

You can say to somebody, hey, I really like you.

I really like spending time with you.

I'm super interested in you and getting to know you.

And I feel like we're moving a little bit quickly.

Here's the pace I like to go at.

I want to manage your expectations.

And that forces somebody to kind of check in with themselves and be able to do that work.