Thais Gibson

Or a lot of their needs are freedom, independence, autonomy.

Right.

And so they sabotage relationships, but it's just their conscious mind saying, I should be in a relationship.

And their subconscious and nervous system responding to the rest of their subconscious mind going, well, relationships don't meet your needs.

And they actually cause you to feel these wounds.

Yeah, it's such an excellent question.

And I think there's three major factors.

Number one, exactly.

Social media is like dating apps, just short-term gratification.

We're getting conditioned for that.

And I think that one of the-

And because we have this outlet where we can hit the eject button because of dating apps and social media, you could feel uncomfortable three months and have some of your attachment stuff come up and go, oh, I feel uncomfortable.

Sabotage.

It's easy to sabotage and go find somebody else.

And this is like my biggest bone to pick in the entire world right now is exactly what you just said, which is when you learn your attachment style.

Yeah.

For you to sit there and then just label yourself as it, identify with the label, and then just go around, God bless everybody, but making excuses for their own behavior.

You're hurting yourself.

Yeah, and people hurt themselves when they do that.

The only reason you should ever be interested in learning your attachment style should be that you go understand your underlying patterns and start to rewire them and heal them.