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Episode 561: Thais Gibson: The Four-Attachment Styles Explained + Why “Self Sabotage” Is A Myth
She was pre-diabetic.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 561: Thais Gibson: The Four-Attachment Styles Explained + Why “Self Sabotage” Is A Myth
She just got told by her doctor she's pre-diabetic.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 561: Thais Gibson: The Four-Attachment Styles Explained + Why “Self Sabotage” Is A Myth
And she's like, every year for the last 12 years, I've told myself I'm going to eat healthy.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 561: Thais Gibson: The Four-Attachment Styles Explained + Why “Self Sabotage” Is A Myth
I'm going to go to the gym and I don't.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 561: Thais Gibson: The Four-Attachment Styles Explained + Why “Self Sabotage” Is A Myth
And I've tried meeting with dieticians, nutritionists, all these things.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 561: Thais Gibson: The Four-Attachment Styles Explained + Why “Self Sabotage” Is A Myth
I don't, I just, I go through the same patterns, what's going on.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 561: Thais Gibson: The Four-Attachment Styles Explained + Why “Self Sabotage” Is A Myth
So we did her needs assessment.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 561: Thais Gibson: The Four-Attachment Styles Explained + Why “Self Sabotage” Is A Myth
And what we found is her biggest needs at a subconscious level, these drivers were for family, social connection, emotional connection, comfort, and safety.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 561: Thais Gibson: The Four-Attachment Styles Explained + Why “Self Sabotage” Is A Myth
And so what happens is your conscious mind says, I want to eat healthy.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 561: Thais Gibson: The Four-Attachment Styles Explained + Why “Self Sabotage” Is A Myth
I want to go to the gym every day.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 561: Thais Gibson: The Four-Attachment Styles Explained + Why “Self Sabotage” Is A Myth
And her subconscious mind says, no, that's going to take time away from family, social connection, emotional connection, safety, and comfort.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 561: Thais Gibson: The Four-Attachment Styles Explained + Why “Self Sabotage” Is A Myth
We don't feel these things.
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Episode 561: Thais Gibson: The Four-Attachment Styles Explained + Why “Self Sabotage” Is A Myth
And so these drivers, it's like your conscious mind intends someone with that 3% to 5% and your subconscious programming says something else.
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Episode 561: Thais Gibson: The Four-Attachment Styles Explained + Why “Self Sabotage” Is A Myth
Second to that, what's also really interesting is that our earliest wired conditioning around food, it happens when we're being breastfed.
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Episode 561: Thais Gibson: The Four-Attachment Styles Explained + Why “Self Sabotage” Is A Myth
And when a mother is breastfeeding their child, well, what happens?
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Episode 561: Thais Gibson: The Four-Attachment Styles Explained + Why “Self Sabotage” Is A Myth
Well, there's a tremendous amount of oxytocin produced, the bonding neurochemical.
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Episode 561: Thais Gibson: The Four-Attachment Styles Explained + Why “Self Sabotage” Is A Myth
So all of our wiring deeply about food is that food equals safety and comfort and being held and being protected and cradled and connection.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 561: Thais Gibson: The Four-Attachment Styles Explained + Why “Self Sabotage” Is A Myth
So our wired associations to food are that it gives us safety, connection, comfort.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 561: Thais Gibson: The Four-Attachment Styles Explained + Why “Self Sabotage” Is A Myth
And so what ends up happening for a lot of people is they say, I want to quit eating chocolate or quit, you know, or go to the gym every day.
Habits and Hustle
Episode 561: Thais Gibson: The Four-Attachment Styles Explained + Why “Self Sabotage” Is A Myth
And this woman, what we had to do is we had to find a way to link her subconscious needs with her conscious mind's goals.