Thais Gibson

Exactly what their core wounds are going to be.

Exactly what their needs are going to be.

Exactly what these emotional patterns are going to be in relationships and what their nervous system is going to be functioning like.

And I know what types of boundary issues they're going to have and how they tend to communicate in relationships.

And it was so interesting because like original attachment theory didn't cover any of that.

It was more about like temperament and some of your behaviors.

And so I was like, oh my gosh, tell me somebody's attachment style and I can help them rewire all these different patterns and themes.

And so what was really exciting to me is like attachment styles became mainstream, but then it was like, okay, here's your attachment style.

And that's when people started to identify instead of like, hey, let me do that underlying work.

So going back to, I detoured there, but going back to this, that's the anxious attachment cell in a nutshell.

It's like those are their themes and their patterns.

They fear like the abandonment, feeling not good enough, feeling excluded, disliked, rejected.

Those are those big triggers that they're bringing from their past because their subconscious mind was imprinted with that.

And then we always project that into the present.

And I often give people this analogy of like a bear in the woods.

If you go into the woods tomorrow and you see a bear and you run from it and you're safe, thank goodness.

But then the very next day you go back into the woods.

Well, what does your mind do?

You're like bracing for the bear.

You're like, the bear is coming.