Thais Gibson

The trees blow in the wind and you're like, oh my God, the bear.

And so what's really interesting is that

We all do that, right?

We all have, oh, I felt abandoned as a child.

Okay, I project that as an adult.

Oh, I felt not good enough as a child.

That's what I bring into my relationships as an adult.

And that's honestly what our relationship baggage is.

And those are all things that interfere the most in our relationships, but those are solvable problems.

So that's sort of the anxious attachment style.

And do you want me to go into the other two?

Okay, so we have our secure, we have our anxious.

At the other end of the continuum is our dismissive avoidant.

So the dismissive avoidant attachment style, they grow up with their overarching theme being childhood emotional neglect.

And sometimes you hear that and you kind of imagine that, OK, this person is going through their childhood and, you know, they have this really intense dynamic where they're alone at three years old and they're trying to find food.

Like, of course, it can be these really extreme scenarios.

But most often childhood emotional neglect is very much that you have these kids who food's on the table.

There's structure and order.

They're at school on time, but their parents are not emotionally available and not attuned.

And it's usually not the inconsistency, like one's attuned and one's not.