Thomas Murphy

You have to start with listening.

And when you're in circle, you have to listen to people because you're not allowed to talk.

So we go in after these great presentations that'll blow your mind.

And we put kids in circle.

I sat in circle last week with a fourth grade young man that was super annoying.

He had this big stuffed animal, Spider-Man stuffed animal.

I mean, I wanted to be like, ah, this kid was so annoying.

When this little boy next to him, fourth grader, started to cry, and this kid must have been 150 pounds and 5'2", this fourth grade boy, the one that was annoying, with this big doll.

But I knew immediately, what fourth grade boy has a big doll like this?

It's so overweight, this boy.

Something's going on in his life.

So it didn't bother me.

He holds this other little boy next to him.

And I almost, I was so choked up watching this because he's holding this tiny little boy who's sobbing next to him in this circle.

And then when it gets all the way back around and I ask another question and one of my favorite questions, you know, where would you go if you had a time machine?

And you got to set that question up the right way.

And this little boy, the big kid said, I'd go back.

My cat was killed by a pit bull and I found him.

After the circle, the principal who was in the circle came over to me and she said, um, she just, she was speechless because that young man watched his father commit suicide in front of him.

He's annoying for a reason.