Tim Ferriss

And I think Terry is very good at providing a toolkit for modern relationships.

But one of his tenets is like, there's no place for objective reality in most relationship disputes.

And he gives this example of like, husband and wife go out to dinner.

Waiter comes over to take the order.

Waiter leaves and the husband's like, honey, you don't have to yell.

And she's like, what?

I wasn't yelling.

And he's like, no, you were yelling.

And then so it turns into one of these things, right?

It starts to spiral out.

And now their date has turned into a heated debate where people are getting ramped up

And the point Terry makes, he's like, the husband could say, like, honey, I knew you were gonna say that.

So, actually, I hired a team of professional audiologists and recording artists.

They have miked our table and everything around us, and based on this decibel level, you were, in fact, yelling.

Like, you think that's gonna help things?

Probably not.

I don't think so.

So, once you, I think,

Even as a test, an experiment, ask yourself, all right, well, if objective reality doesn't exist in most conflicts and your only job, especially as a male, is to try to understand your partner's position, I think men are particularly pig-headed about this.

Women can be pretty bad too, but I think men are much worse.