Tim Ferriss

Being able to, you know, separate things you can control versus things you can't control, and then the wisdom, hopefully, and experience to be able to tell the difference.

And... I've realized that being incredibly forgiving, while knowing your non-negotiables upfront with interpersonal relationships, is, for me at least so far, like, the path to intimacy and longevity and happiness and peace.

And then with other types of...

compartmentalized, I shouldn't say compartmentalized, silos in my life, let's just say maybe it's writing a book, having like unforgivably high standards, but with a deadline so that I'm not allowed to procrastinate forever.

Because if I don't have a boss and I don't, that perfectionism can turn into permanent, meaning you're not shipping anything.

So I still apply super high standards for myself

with certain non-negotiables related to physical training or to building a... cultivating and developing, conditioning a mental reserve, right?

To hopefully stave off things like neurodegenerative disease.

Those are all non-negotiable.

But with human interactions, I think I have really learned through fucking it up over and over and over again,

Uh, I mean, really.

It's just like, God, I look back at some of my past girlfriends, I'm like, God bless you, you saints.

Like, God, I was such a pain in the ass.

And I was so convinced I was right.

So convinced I was right about so much.

And guess what?

It doesn't matter.

Maybe I was right.

But I really encourage people to check out, there's an amazing therapist who is brutal.

but decades of experience.