Tim Ferriss

It's like, going from problem solving, right, which is closely related to problem seeking, to understanding someone's inner experience, as opposed to trying to, like, validate your objective reality.

may sound a little squishy, but listen to Terry Real.

Gives you a lot of practical tools and language you can use.

That is a huge part of life, as I've already talked about, that I've revamped my entire way I think about my calendar, the entire way I commit time, defend time, say no to things, around these most important life-giving, energy-giving relationships.

And that means how you navigate those, how you interact with people, how you cultivate your EQ, how you feel what someone is saying, not just listen to what they're saying, preparing to offer them some words of condolence.

Maybe that's not what they need.

Like, bearing witness to that person in a true felt sense is... It's like, if my 20-year-old self could hear me saying this, like, would have vomited in his mouth, but it's like, at that time, I was a bull in a china shop.

I was leaving just a wake of collateral damage in my relationships.

Not because I was abusive.

Like, was not abusive.

I saw enough of that.

Didn't want to, you know, no thanks.

But I wasn't available.

I was very, very concerned with being right.

And I think if you're instead, even in the case of work, like, dedicated to what you put out in the world.

But if it's someone else's idea, or if you just want, if they need to believe it's their idea, fine.

Sure.

Why not?

Could just be getting older and softening around the edges.

I don't know.