Tim Ferriss

And now their date has turned into a heated debate where people are getting ramped up

And the point Terry makes, he's like, the husband could say, like, honey, I knew you were gonna say that.

So, actually, I hired a team of professional audiologists and recording artists.

They have miked our table and everything around us, and based on this decibel level, you were, in fact, yelling.

Like, you think that's gonna help things?

Probably not.

I don't think so.

So, once you, I think,

Even as a test, an experiment, ask yourself, all right, well, if objective reality doesn't exist in most conflicts and your only job, especially as a male, is to try to understand your partner's position, I think men are particularly pig-headed about this.

Women can be pretty bad too, but I think men are much worse.

And to really understand why they feel the way they do,

what if done differently would have changed anything?

It's like, man, so many of the problems just go away.

It's kind of like meditating, where it's like, don't fix anything.

Just like, actually don't try to fix anything.

Just sit there and develop more awareness.

And then like, oh, all these problems go away.

Oh, my friend's chronic pain went away.

What's going on?

Who cares about the mechanism?"