Toby Stuart

But then that gives us some discretion about how we feel, right?

Because if you're sitting in the fourth row, if you think about it, you can choose who you want to compare yourself to.

You can compare yourself to the first row or you can compare yourself to the eighth row.

And that's your decision.

And a life skill is to look at the way that doesn't make you feel bad.

But another life skill or another set of choices that you have is there was a book that was written by an interesting Cornell economist called Choosing the Right Pond, which is that you can choose what status system you enter most of the times, maybe not at work, but in other parts of your life.

If you're a great weed smoker, you should join a weed smoking group.

That's the currency in your group.

Let's suppose you can smoke five joints a day, but there is someone else who can smoke 12.

You might want to join the group where five is a lot of joints.

Yes, yes, yes.

Because if you join the group where like everybody else can smoke six or up, you just went to the bottom of the ladder.

Everything is a relative mindfuck.

Essentially, all of us can be miserable by choosing people to compare ourselves to that make us feel bad about ourselves.

Right.

Like we all have the capacity to do that.

So one of the interesting things that comes to mind is you have high status and there are ways in which you get that where they kind of never get taken away from you.

And then there are ways in which you get that where...

You can lose it.

You're an actor and you win a Golden Globe or you win an Academy Award or you win a Cannes Prize, like a festival prize.