Todd Goodwin
Appearances
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
What is it you really want? Is the person who is very driven, let's say, are they doing it out of a compulsive need to satisfy low self-worth? Are they doing it to prove to their parents, dead or alive, that they can do it or to prove to themselves or to prove to their community or whoever?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
And then there are negative ones, like if someone was at a funeral and they were really upset and there's a certain way people were touching them on their shoulder or a certain song that was playing, for example. When you hear that song, you might feel sad. It's not reality, it's not happening now, but it's just a reminder.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
So our subconscious has a lot of things to learn and it's just often just presenting us with information for no reason other than just association. So in the case of what we did, I mean, there are ways we can neutralize the negative association. That's usually one of the first things. We probably did that too.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
But you wanna figure out what is it you already really have a strong positive association with that emotionally and physically makes you feel strong or empowered or confident, whatever the state you want. And in your case, it was that song.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
so then you just play that song not in the car you can do it in the car but ahead of time you can play it and you can just let yourself feel those empowering feelings or confidence or whatever it is build up within you and then what you do is you choose some kind of cue or trigger or anchor a gesture of some kind usually rubbing your fingers together making a fist tapping on your you know neck it doesn't matter as long as it's not something you do every day
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
You do that when you're feeling that feeling as strongly as you can, and then you just repeat that process for four or five minutes just to really condition yourself. And then when you're in the car, it helps to have the music again, but even if you don't have it, just when you get to the point where you might have otherwise started to feel uncomfortable,
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
you do that trigger or that gesture or whatever that is. And usually that brings back some of those positive feelings that you had basically copied from the music and pasted onto that gesture. So it's kind of like a copy paste. And then what you're doing is you're creating in real time a more positive association with the environment that previously was nerve wracking.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
So you're teaching your subconscious, oh, we can feel good when we're driving.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
I've heard of it generically. I know that's something you're big into.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
Thanks, Heather. It's great to be here.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
Yeah, you explained that pretty well. I think it was actually late 1800s, but nonetheless, or even maybe later, whatever the case is, it's something that is built into all Actually, I think even down to the cellular level, I think even bacteria can be conditioned with a shock or with some form of environmental negative stimulus. They'll move away from it. So even something at that level.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
So the point is that this is not something... That kind of conditioning is not a conscious... level of conditioning, and it doesn't require intelligence, depending on how you define that. Most people probably wouldn't say bacteria are particularly intelligent, but there are basic things that they can be conditioned to do.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
And if I'm wrong about bacteria, then very primitive animals certainly will do that. But I would say the emotional part is important, whether it's positive or negative, because when you're bringing up feelings of gratitude or it doesn't even be gratitude but any any empowering feeling when an emotion is paired to a thought it's more likely to become a memory now if you have hungry dogs
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
and you present meat, they're going to get emotional about it because they're very excited. So if there's no emotional level there at all, it's a lot harder to learn things. Think about how long it took us to learn stuff in school. It was probably boring and repetitive, and it wasn't particularly emotionally inspiring.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
And so we had to kind of drill it into our head by repeating it 100 times and studying and cramming. But when someone develops a phobia, let's say, or a trauma happens, traumatic experience, they only need one time to learn it. That's called single trial learning. So that's even faster than with the dog, the Pavlov dog. A very intense emotional experience can imprint a memory immediately.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
One of the reasons why the work that Gina and I do tends to work so well is because the brain, the mind, you know, the mind is a concept correlates to certain parts of the brain, but basically our mind learns things better quickly as trauma proves.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
and so it learns it unlearns quickly better than in a slow drawn-out analytical process which is one reason why just talking about your problems again and again while initially might be insightful eventually is going to hit a wall because we don't learn that way we learn better quickly and we learn the subconscious mind i do want to say one thing though about the the mind movie there's a lot of pop psychology
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
in the personal development world i mean there's definitely some legitimacy and some value to the mind movies that you're talking about it's just a lot of emphasis and marketing is put on promoting a positive thinking or uh you know let's just let's just make ourselves feel good while we think about something in order to get our mind to focus on it like you're talking about what's missing a lot of cases is that if there's a subconscious belief based on some past experience
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
about the individual or how they relate to the world that is strongly disempowering, such as a traumatic experience, upsetting experience, low self-worth, anxiety, fear, whatever, just doing that kind of empowering exercise is going to have diminishing returns unless you remove the crap that's already there.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
So what Gina and I often do is when we talk with someone and we determine what's really naturally holding them back from what should be ideally a fairly natural flow towards their goals, but rarely is for people, we ask, okay, what's getting in the way of this? Just like the body naturally heals when we get rid of the toxins and the garbage and all that stuff.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
If it's not healing, we have to ask what's stopping it. So if we're not achieving our goals or we're constantly sabotaging our health or relationships or money, whatever it is, it pays to ask what might be causing it. And it's probably a belief self-worth or a fear of some outcome, whatever it might be. There's other things too. And then that has to be dealt with.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
Once that is neutralized, once that disempowering perception is unlearned, then often you don't even need to do the mind movie kind of thing. But if you do it, it will simply accelerate realization of the person's outcome or goal.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
Well, you know, while Gina and I have not seen everything, I mean, she's been in practice nine years. For me, it's been 18. We've seen a lot. And we've seen, you know, we could rattle off all kinds of examples of people with really, as you said, effed up experiences. past experiences like big T traumas, you know, crazy stuff objectively.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
And that led to a lot of, you know, health issues and relationship issues and money issues and career issues and all these different things. They're just, they're just surface level issues. bits of evidence that something is off at a subconscious level. It's not anyone's fault. But when shit happens, you have to know how to flush and move on.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
And the problem is most people, the shit is just still sitting in the bowl. Sorry for the graphics, but it's just sitting there for a long time. And it doesn't matter how shitty it was. It doesn't matter how long ago it happened or how significant it was. Here's the proof right here.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
And are they doing it from a place of weakness and insecurity or are they doing it because they're truly inspired and fulfilled by that work and that's why they have so much energy, they love doing it? If what you're doing is compulsive and it's not coming from a place of inspiration, then you may lose the drive to do that.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
If someone feels that something that happened in the past is a contributor or a cause to why they're stuck or whatever their problem might be today, then they have to realize that's something they learned. So they acquired a limitation. They acquired a limiting belief. They acquired an unhealthy or disempowering association or perception.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
They learned it, which means they can unlearn it, because the brain is always remodeling itself based on how it's used. And if you're constantly using a poor me story or you know, building your identity around your problems. I'm an addict. I'm an alcoholic. I'm a, you know, a cancer survivor. I was a victim of abuse, whatever it might be.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
I feel bad that people go through those things, but such is life. The reality is whatever happened is just what happened. But how someone responds to it and what they learn from it is an individualized thing. There are people who can go through identical traumatic experiences and one person comes out of it fairly unscathed. That may be rare, but it happens.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
And then someone else can be driven to do drugs and suicide. Those are extremes. Most people are somewhere in between. But that means it's not what happened. So it doesn't matter how effed up the life was. It's what you learned. And if you learned to...
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
to feel that you're not enough, or that you can't trust anyone, or that someone's just waiting to screw you, or that you don't deserve to be successful, or that if you do, someone's gonna take it away, or you get a lot of sympathy and support for being stuck as much as you think you wanna change it, all of those things can interfere with someone moving on from those issues.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
The reason why talking about it doesn't usually fix it is because dialogue, analysis, all this conscious level, you know, talking, like I said, it's appropriate for some people. It's useful for some people. It's just not an efficient way of dealing with subconscious issues. That's all conscious level dialogue. It's limiting. It's like the tip of the iceberg.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
The problem is the massive ice underneath the water that you can't see, but you know is there. So hypnotists, we just change how people think. We don't make them do anything different. We don't control their mind. We give them back control of their mind, which is what they would have had that effed up thing not happened.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
Gina, do you want to talk about the one who was trafficked by her mom?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
Well, it was my pleasure and you've done quite a lot with yourself. I can't take more than partial credit, but you know, a chef is only as good as his ingredients. So you did a lot of great work yourself.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
And that was over the course of several weeks, right? So that was like, he saw her less than like a month and a half, two months, something like that, right?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
So the point is, some people say, well, if it happens too quickly... then it can't be real. I mean, some of the trauma work we do is, I mean, you know this, Heather, with some of the stuff we've done. I don't remember specifically any of it because I think we first met probably 15 years ago or something like that. That's when we first started doing stuff. But
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
There are certain techniques that we do, that Gina and I do, with really upsetting memories. Whether they're childhood memories or something that just happened. Like I had a client who caught her husband in their bed having sex with her friend. So she was actually diagnosed with PTSD by a psychologist from that. So she wanted to reconcile with him. She couldn't because...
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
she couldn't forgive him because the images of him screwing another woman in her bed kept popping into her mind i had another client who was cheating on her husband with this guy and she wanted to stop consciously but subconsciously the sex was really good and she kept thinking of this guy as this amazing guy next to her boring husband and you know and and you know lots of examples someone who's whose brother died suddenly of cancer and the doctors missed it and then he died and she from that point on had years of
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
not only grief but terrifying fear that she would die or someone would die on her all of these things may be irrational but we can't just strong arm ourselves and force ourselves to change because if the subconscious wants it or believes it it's going to get it otherwise there wouldn't be addictions no one would be smoking no one would be overweight we would just say oh eat more kale eat less cookies
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
That's easy, let's do it. I mean, I'd still be a nutritionist if it were that easy, because I did that in the late 90s and realized that all this great advice I was giving was not making any difference. But some of the traumatic memory work we do can be minutes.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
You know, I don't know, I wasn't there in that session Gina had with that young lady who was trafficked by her mom. But, you know, I know we use the same, you know, she and I are equally capable and we use the same techniques and the same methods. And sometimes people will go from being visibly agitated when they remember something that happened.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
They might be crying, they might, you know, have their heart rate increase, whatever. That's as painful as it gets, only for a couple minutes, and then very often, two, three, five minutes later, the person's either laughing about it or just totally not even feeling anything.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
They still remember what happened, but the emotional evidence, the emotional symptom, the emotional effects of that memory just has changed. They still know it happened, but they just feel different about it. And once that thorn is removed, from their mind, basically, then it's much easier to change the underlying beliefs, like in the example Gina gave. Oh, I guess I am worthy.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
Because as long as she had those strong memories, emotionally charged memories, her subconscious had proof that she wasn't good enough or that she wasn't worthy of love or whatever beliefs she picked up. Once the emotional energy is drained from that memory, and this is just one of a number of tools we use, but once that happens, It's like the world is open to someone thinking differently.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
And that's where a lot of the hypnosis comes in at that point, is helping to change their underlying belief. We do that through everything from visualizations to hypnotic storytelling to all kinds of different things. And most of the time, the change sticks. And it's really amazing and it's just wonderful that
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
Even though we wish we were people's, you know, their first option, we often see people after they've tried antidepressants or anti-anxiety meds, after they've been in months or years of therapy, after they've tried to force themselves to change. But we all have the ability to learn very quickly. We just have to use the right tools.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
So one, we always do an initial consultation with someone because we need to know what we're dealing with in terms of the individual person's challenges and what their goals are. So some people are aware of what is really causing their symptoms, as Gina and I refer to what people usually say, oh, this is my problem.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
Once we figured out how to compensate for whatever disadvantages there are of not being in the same room with people, there are also advantages. But we were able to neutralize those disadvantages for the most part. So now, since then, we see people exclusively by Zoom, wherever they are, time zone permitting,
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
and it's just as effective as it ever was in the same physical office space but the way we do it which is different from a lot of hypnotists is that we meet with the person for you know however long half hour or 40 minutes just to figure out you know what's improved over the last week since the last session whatever and then make sure we're on the same page about what we're going to address this time and then we disconnect we use our studio quality microphone we record
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
a customized hypnosis recording so it could be you know over the course of working with someone over you know a month or two there might be four or five six unique audio recordings and they're going to address specifically what that person needs in a way that's most effective for them and then we email it to them and they ideally listen to it every day for you know a week and usually that's enough
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
So what we are offering to your listeners, I mean, assuming that what we've been talking about has sparked a little curiosity, makes you wonder if, oh, I wonder if working with Gina or Todd by Zoom could actually be helpful. I would invite your listeners to go to goodwinhypnosis.com slash survey. And we have literally a 60 second survey that will ask you a few quick questions.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
And that will help you decide if what we do might be a really good fit for you. And if you make sure you mentioned, you know, creating confidence or Heather, and we'll send you, you'll immediately get emailed a deeply relaxing hypnosis audio.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
called go with the flow so it's a really nice relaxing audio you can listen to as much as you want and a video called 17 facts that you need to know about yourself before seeing a hypnotist or therapist We'll also invite you to our next, you know, live Zoom Q&A that we do for education, you know, teaching some valuable insights about human behavior and also taking live questions.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
So there's no pressure at all. It's just kind of a free and easy way to get started if you're curious. It's goodwinhypnosis.com slash survey and, you know, benefit from it.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
Anxiety is my problem, or procrastination is my problem, or drinking a little too much wine, that's my problem. Fear of public speaking, that's my problem.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
people-pleasing, imposter syndrome, fear of public speaking, social anxiety, performance anxiety, not to mention unhealthy habits and panic attacks and ruminating. Someone has trouble getting over a breakup, for example.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
That's not business-related necessarily, but it can affect your ability to build your business or to get ahead if you're constantly thinking about revisiting the past in your mind or worrying about the future.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
Yeah, I mean, you could add grief, guilt, shame, regret, resentment, anger of any kind. You could add that. Fear, panic, anxiety, like Gina said. Overwhelm. I mean, basically, if you're... If you're thinking, feeling, or acting in a way that you wish you could change, but you can't seem to do it, that's something where we can help. We can help you feel and do better naturally.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
in all of these cases those are just symptoms and so what we do constantly is we're always asking ourselves what is causing that particular issue so someone doesn't have to understand how their mind works before they reach out to us the whole point of working with us as opposed to other occasionally useful and appropriate methods like you know talk therapy or using just sheer willpower is that
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
It's not a personality thing at all. I mean, there's the myth of the addictive personality. People say, well, I like to drink and smoke and gamble, or I am obsessive about watching some show on Netflix. I have an addictive personality. That's not true at all.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
It's just an indication of how either overwhelmed or unfulfilled that individual is, and their subconscious is telling them to engage in certain dopamine-producing or endorphin-producing behaviors to make themselves feel good, to alleviate the emotional discomfort they're feeling before they do that thing.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
So for example, people who have addictions, and I'll use that word very broadly, what we call bad habit or emotionally compulsive habit, or behavior is usually driven from an uncomfortable emotional state. And so the subconscious, in a weird irony, creates the emotional discomfort. It could be loneliness, sadness, anger, stress, guilt, regret, shame, grief, all the things I mentioned.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
And it creates that. And then it also very nicely says, huh, I don't like how I feel. I know, let's go eat something, let's have a drink, let's smoke, let's gamble, let's use porn, let's whatever it is, let's go shopping and social media, you know, TikTok. And that will temporarily make the person feel better. So mission accomplished.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
But because nothing's really changing, that's causing the emotional discomfort from coming up, right? That's actually nothing's changing at the, you know, underneath the surface. They have to keep doing it. And that's where they develop the habit or the addiction because the addiction is essentially an emotional dependency on that behavior or that temporary remedy to help themselves feel better.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
But if you can figure out why they're feeling shitty to begin with, to put it simply, or even slightly uncomfortable, And you can change that thought process that's leading to that emotion. And they just feel different. They don't have an urge to go engage in that counterproductive behavior.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
Can you give a little more color on what you're thinking in that regard? I have an idea, but I don't want to guess. Why would someone think their whole life would unravel?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
Okay, yeah. So... That comes to, there's two issues there. One is if someone identifies with their problem, like I'm a type A personality, I'm an overachiever, I'm a, you know, whatever it might be, then you gotta be careful with what you identify with.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
If your identity is gonna dictate and drive and predict your behavior, so the person who says I'm an alcoholic and they have that, they've repeated that to themselves again and again,
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
is going to have a lot of trouble quitting drinking even through hypnosis if that's all that they're trying to do is change their behavior because their identity has you know made it so that well what do alcoholics do they drink alcohol a lot or they they you know that's that's it so what does a workaholic do they overwork they sacrifice their personal life or their health and they live that imbalance so if someone has identified with their problem we need to kind of disentangle that
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
and that's part of that's a subconscious thing that we can work on but the other is asking okay what is it you really want and are you it is the person who is very driven let's say are they doing it out of a compulsive need to satisfy
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
low self-worth, are they doing it to prove to their parents, dead or alive, that they can do it, or to prove to themselves, or to prove to their community, or whoever? And are they doing it from a place of weakness and insecurity, or are they doing it because they're truly inspired and fulfilled by that work, and that's why they have so much energy, they love doing it?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
we're not operating at a conscious level see if you what you think logically about your situation at the surface is probably not what's really happening in the mind so if someone understands what their challenges are at a symptom level we can usually when within that very first meeting of talking with the person by zoom because we see all our clients from coast to coast by zoom
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
If it's the latter, then it's not going to change at all. They'll just have less stress and more success, most likely. But if they're overworking and they're doing all those things as a way of making up for poor self-worth or self-esteem or something to that effect, then we would be very clear with them. We'd say, now...
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
By resolving the self-worth deficits or whatever, by empowering you at a subconscious level about how you think about yourself, your life, your past, your future, if what you're doing is compulsive and it's not coming from a place of inspiration, work, let's say, your company, your business, whatever, then you may lose the drive to do that. I mean, I'll be totally honest with you.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
Then the question is for that client. Do you want to continue doing what you're doing? Maybe it serves you because you're making money. Maybe you're building a business, but you're also tearing down your health and relationships. If that's a fair bargain for you, then we're not the person to work with because we're not going to take that away from you. You got to decide.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
But if you say, I want to be able to be motivated, ideally from a place of inspiration and not because if I don't, I feel like I'm a loser. then we can help with that. But just realize that if someone is, if their primary reason for engaging in that overwork, let's say, is coming from a place of weakness, then the rhetorical question is, why would you really want to continue that way?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
Because you could form an identity around something that gives you a sense of purpose and mission in your life and is not simply an overcompensation for a deficit. That's a philosophical answer.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
So you can go to goodwinhypnosis.com slash survey. Goodwinhypnosis.com, of course, is our website. We have tons of educational videos there and descriptions of a lot of the different issues we work with that we mentioned here, as well as you can read countless reviews from clients and some video testimonials to hear from their mouth about what their experience was.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
And it touches on a lot of the stuff we talked about, trauma, the symptoms, the underlying issues. But if you go to goodwinhypnosis.com slash survey, and like I said, 60 second survey, fill it out, mention creating confidence or mention Heather,
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
put in your email address and then you'll immediately get the go with the flow relaxation self-hypnosis audio and the video you know the 17 facts you need to know about yourself before seeing a hypnotist or therapist so whether you work with us one-on-one by zoom or You know, it takes longer for you to figure out what you want to do in terms of personal development.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
Or if you're working with anyone else, these are things you really need to know about yourself. And you can get that just from that video. And then, like I said, we also occasionally do educational Zoom sessions that are free to whomever, you know, shows up. So we teach concepts like some of the stuff we're talking about here. And we take questions from attendees.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
And if you can't make it, you can always email it in ahead of time.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
we can get a pretty good beat on what the underlying cause is. And to put it real simply, a behavior is a symptom of an emotion, an emotion is a symptom of a thought, And that could be a belief, an image someone puts in their mind, a perception about something, the meaning they give to something. But it's those underlying subconscious thoughts, which are things that someone learned in their life.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
So they weren't born with that issue. They learned it, like you mentioned, through trauma, which is one of our specialties is resolving that quickly. That's an unrecognized cause of trauma. The vast majority of emotional and behavioral issues people have and it doesn't mean ptsd.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
It just means some emotionally upsetting experience And most traumas are what we would consider relatively minor But they have big impact and someone's trying to build a business or they're trying to have a healthy relationship or To get fit and eat healthier or whatever it might be When they feel a part of them is constantly getting in the way and stopping them. That's their subconscious so
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
if we fight with our subconscious constantly, which is what happens when you try to use willpower and white-knuckle it or force yourself into doing something, that's only going to
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
usually make it more stressful and it doesn't usually work because the subconscious is much more powerful so we need to make friends with the subconscious and communicate in a way that it will hear the message that we at a conscious level wanted to understand we wanted to stop becoming anxious to stop worrying so much to make healthier choices to feel more confident all of those things and to let go of whatever baggage is causing someone to ruminate constantly so
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
Hypnosis and NLP and the other methods that Gina and I use are simply what we found to be some of the most effective ways of changing the underlying subconscious beliefs, thought patterns, perceptions, so that after we finish the work we're doing with this person in a collaborative sense, then they don't need to remind themselves constantly to be confident.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
They don't have to practice taking deep breaths. you know, to be calm. They don't have to slap themselves on the wrist when they think about eating a cookie, you know. It just tends to happen automatically. So the subconscious is the source from which all desirable and undesirable behaviors stem.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
And if we can make the change at that level, which is really what we as hypnotists do, then everything that stems from that changes.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
So,
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
visualization in the general sense and I mean this in an automatic sense so not so for example someone who is experiencing elevated stress in general which most of us experienced during kovat because we were in a situation where the economy were health were a lot of things social interactions were all really different kind of out of our control and we didn't know how much the world was going to change so
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
that elevates stress level in general. And when that happens, sometimes There are little fears, phobias, and examples of where anxiety just shows up as a symptom of an overwhelm. So those are just manifestations of an elevated level of stress in general.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
Now, as far as visualization goes, when people are in overwhelm, ruminating, worrying, feeling anxious for whatever reason, and people with intrusive thoughts from traumatic past experiences are a perfect example of this, What they're doing is they're unconsciously, unintentionally visualizing negative outcomes. So the person might imagine the car crash.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
the person might imagine or remember the upsetting experience that they had even decades ago. And it comes out of nowhere sometimes. It can be triggered or it can just be, you know, they might not even tend to think about it. So what happens is when we run something through our mind, visually, auditorily, self-talk, any of that, usually it's images primarily,
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
That, in a subliminal way, in like a split second, that image runs through your mind. You may not even be aware of it consciously, and then it changes your emotional state. So what we did, I don't remember specifically what we did other than the driving issue.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
is by practicing visualizing by consciously intending to visualize an empowering scenario it doesn't mean just being positive for being positive sake because that can be just as imbalanced or delusional as being overly negative but something where you felt like you had enough control as much as you could have and that you could trust yourself to be in that on that highway whatever it was
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
you're consciously interacting with your subconscious mind. You're specifically constructing a visualization or a scenario that is telling your subconscious, this is the way I'm rehearsing how I'm gonna think and feel. So it's like a mental rehearsal, and by practicing it, you're essentially giving your subconscious evidence that that's what you are capable of doing.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
It's the same thing as if you're trying to pick up a new behavior like speaking in front of a large crowd or going to a restaurant and being able to avoid the basket of bread or the dessert menu. If you rehearse it in your mind and there's certain ways that we can do this that makes it especially effective, then
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
when you're actually there in that scenario, in that situation, you innately feel like, oh, wait, I've done this before. Even if you never have.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
Well, the first would be to try to bring some awareness to when the person might be
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
negatively rehearsing something or throwing up you know catastrophic scenarios in their mind and it could be a form of self-talk they might say oh my god this is never going to work out or this is going to be so awful or i'm going to be late or i'm gonna whatever and sometimes negative self-talk is useful but in this case if someone is overly doing that they're going to create an emotional reaction to their own self-talk
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
And then they're gonna physiologically react and they're gonna start sweating and their heart's gonna beat faster and they're gonna have a shortness of breath and they're gonna sometimes just wanna get the hell out of there or avoid the situation altogether. And that's where phobias and panic kind of come in. So one, the first thing I would say is figure out where you're doing harm
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
And it's not your fault. This is an automatic process. But you can figure out where you're doing it, what might be triggering it, and then ask yourself, what would a more constructive or empowering alternative way of thinking about it be? And then you just practice doing that in your mind, especially if you're in situations which previously triggered the opposite.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
I mean, that's one way of doing it.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
In NLP, we call that an anchor. But a simple way of looking at it is it's basically a trigger or like a button, a push button for your mental computer or your whole neurology. So basically, the way it works is that it's just associative learning. The reason why that usually works is because we have associations with a lot of things in our life that make us feel different feelings.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
So I'll put it really simply. There are certain... sensory triggers that evoke a positive feeling and others that evoke a negative feeling quick example of that if you were listening to a song at your when you had your first kiss let's assume it was a good one and it was like a really emotionally charged positive feeling then even if you haven't heard that song in decades
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#512 Use HYPNOSIS to Unlock Deeper Confidence and Uncover Hidden Subconscious Blocks with Todd and Gina Goodwin
You can hear that song and a lot of those feelings come back and even the memory comes back. Sound and smell are two of the strongest links to memory, but basically it could be something you see, it could be a touch, like your fingers pressed together, but basically there are natural anchors or associations that our mind makes just accidentally.