Tom Glaser
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
I love what you're saying.
Thank you.
But this comes after years and years of years of psychotherapy and looking at it.
There's a stage where blame is appropriate, Clarence.
There's a stage where we need to do that for ourselves.
Because I thought I was to blame.
I thought I was screwed up.
There's something wrong with me.
And when I came to realize, wait a minute, maybe this wasn't, maybe they were in the wrong.
I've never been able to have my anger before.
I had to have my anger first.
I had to have my own rage about it before I could come to any kind of understanding or compassion for them.
And that's just a much later stage that comes from really being with people
And having self-compassion, right?
You can't force it.
And I see too many people trying to come to forgiveness too soon before their nervous system is ready.
You got to have the full feelings and know you are okay.
And not just from yourself.
I'm emphasizing self-compassion here.