Tom Glaser

None of this happened yesterday.

in isolation this happened in in my own group therapy which i write about in the book it happened in psychotherapy with my psychotherapist it happened because i have friends who i can trust who i was able to talk about it and all these people said tom tom that wasn't your fault yeah right i got a consistent message over time again if we back up

If a child can get those kinds of messages really quickly, and what does that mean?

Within a month.

We now know it's within a month.

There's actually a time period.

It has to be really quite quick.

Children need to be reassured.

They need to know they're loved.

If children get that, often a trauma response...

does not develop over time.

If they're not met emotionally, and I was not, I was not reassured.

I had some, plenty of, I had a lot of love.

I did.

I didn't have enough specific love and reassurance about what I was enduring.

I didn't have enough protection.

I didn't have somebody come in and say, their behavior is not okay.

We're not going to allow this to happen to you.

That's what I needed.

I needed, nobody did that.