Tony Robbins

And so underneath that, he's always enough for these kids, because they can't stay squat, two and three years old, and they're not gonna leave me, as I said, because you've never had teenagers.

So it's not that he loves you less, it's there's an unconscious fear in everybody that maybe I'm not enough.

The deepest fear everyone has,

Everyone.

I've dealt with kings, queens, presence countries, people in prisons, every level you imagine.

We all have a fear that we're not enough at some point for those we love most.

Not funny enough, not smart enough, not strong enough, not rich enough, not intelligent enough, not something enough.

And that leads to a much deeper fear, which is if I'm not enough, I won't be loved.

And love is the oxygen of life.

So what most of us do, this is the thing you've got to be careful of, both of you is a trap, is we go to love that is certain love.

Certain love is our children.

That's why people go to their kids and they sublimate and they cost their own relationship.

As opposed to uncertain love, which actually creates passion.

Because there's no passion in what's absolutely certain.

All passion is found in the realm of uncertainty, surprise, those elements, right?

So as you both grow, it isn't him, because if I was in your shoes as a woman, I'd be thinking, yeah, great, he loves my kids, what do I deal with me?

What kind of thing to say, right?

But what he's really saying is, I'm uncertain in this about you for him, not him for you.

And that will grow as you both go through things together and come closer together versus further apart.

And then there'll be a point where there'll be no question that it's you.