Tracee Ellis Ross
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94 appearances
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first heard Apr 2025
last heard Apr 2025
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I'm so good. Like I said, family. I do feel like family. We got family in the house. Really interesting conversation. And I took some notes. Oh. I took notes in my head and I actually wrote them down out there because you said there's a lot you can learn about how, who a guy is or who a person is by how they are on the court. Yes. They let their guard down.
I think I could have used that information.
I think I'm a little late on adding that to my list of how to figure out if he's a match. There's still time. Noted now. There's still time because I'm still single. So noted now. You know, there's still time.
It's always good. Well, the thing is, I stay open. I'm probably more open. Way open. Oh, my God. That sounded so wrong.
Mom. My heart. Your family. My heart stays open.
That was hard. Good correction. More open than it should be. But I do date. And it's a fascinating adventure out there. You know? Mostly, though, I think there's really good men out there. I think to a certain extent... I'm a very unique sort of unicorn of a woman. And so it's going to take a unique person.
And in the meantime, I have really learned how to live my life and enjoy it and not sit around waiting. I come, you know, I was saying to someone recently that I'm one of the first generations of choice and it's not anymore, which really there was a window and that has shifted. And I do think that that's going to change dating for women so much.
When you mean you've been the sort of the product of choice? Yeah, like the assumption of Roe v. Wade and the ability for a woman to find her own delight and pleasure and choice around how she navigates dating or how one would navigate dating. And we're in a different world now. And I'm curious what that will look like. It frightens me for younger girls because of many reasons, obviously. But
Even with the systemic protection of Roe v. Wade, I still was coming up against the cultural norms of being a choiceful woman and owning my own body and my own choices and what it is that I'm looking for in a relationship and the ability to negotiate in a relationship what it is you want the relationship to be between the two of you as opposed to what society says it should be.
Yeah, well. Well, and they haven't been asked to because I think it's not always a context that if it's an area that you don't have to think into. Right. But I think it is a genuine, regular thought process for me. It's one of the reasons, I mean, we've talked about this, that often I date younger men. And a lot of it is because— Let's stop on that, folks. Oh, my God. We had a great dinner.
We had a great dinner, by the way. We're across the table. Your husband goes, but why? And I said, well, maybe because I can. Yes. Parish.
It's really fun to share.
But one of the reasons, though, because I had to ask myself that question. I was like, what is this about? Because I want a partner. And so often, and it's not just that I'm older. I'm also very embodied. I am a full, very whole person who knows myself, who is in charge of my life, and who lives a very full, just robust life. So it's not just age.
It's like life experience and sort of a difference. But I had to ask myself the question, why? Why does this keep sort of coming up other than they're hot and gorgeous? There's that. There's that. But a lot of men my age are steeped in a toxic masculinity and have been raised in a culture where there is a particular way that a relationship looks.
And anything that starts to smell of that for me, I did enough of it where I was controlled and felt like I was a possession or whatever those things were or prize or anything. And I just, I have no interest in it and I will not do it again. I'm sorry.
That's obviously, it's a generalization. But because I have dated men my age, there is a difference. there is an openness that occurs with a younger man around whether it's gender fluidity or not even having an issue with homosexuality. I mean, something as basic as that, that there's times where I'll be sitting across the table from somebody and just like, what did you just say?
Yeah, like I'm so sorry.
Yeah, for real. Chamber pot.
Your chamber pot. Like where I'm just like, yeah, this is not a match. And I don't, I have long been past the age where I feel like it's my job to teach somebody or grow them up. That I'm not interested in. So, but it's interesting. I mean, there's so many different philosophies on dating and I have come up with mine.
I have come up with what works for me and what makes sense for me and what feels safe for me.
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