Ty Tashiro

And so if you have them look on a computer screen, for example, and a hot woman pops up on the computer screen, Men will reflexively avert their eyes for a second to try to not look at it. Now they'll look back eventually because they're guys, but they have this kind of protective mechanism to say, I can't just passively work with this.

And so if you have them look on a computer screen, for example, and a hot woman pops up on the computer screen, Men will reflexively avert their eyes for a second to try to not look at it. Now they'll look back eventually because they're guys, but they have this kind of protective mechanism to say, I can't just passively work with this.

I need to actively try to manage my desires so that I can have a happy relationship.

I need to actively try to manage my desires so that I can have a happy relationship.

I need to actively try to manage my desires so that I can have a happy relationship.

Yeah, I think you're so right about that, Chris. One of the phrases I hear so often from people who have cheated on their partner, now they're like, whoops, I shouldn't have done that, is they use the phrase, so next thing I know, as if it's this total surprise that they're drunk at the nightclub and now they're making out with somebody.

Yeah, I think you're so right about that, Chris. One of the phrases I hear so often from people who have cheated on their partner, now they're like, whoops, I shouldn't have done that, is they use the phrase, so next thing I know, as if it's this total surprise that they're drunk at the nightclub and now they're making out with somebody.

Yeah, I think you're so right about that, Chris. One of the phrases I hear so often from people who have cheated on their partner, now they're like, whoops, I shouldn't have done that, is they use the phrase, so next thing I know, as if it's this total surprise that they're drunk at the nightclub and now they're making out with somebody.

And, you know, one of the things you'll do is you just backtrack with them to this whole host of bad decisions that eventually led to them, right? Being in that moment where they made out with someone or something else that they shouldn't have.

And, you know, one of the things you'll do is you just backtrack with them to this whole host of bad decisions that eventually led to them, right? Being in that moment where they made out with someone or something else that they shouldn't have.

And, you know, one of the things you'll do is you just backtrack with them to this whole host of bad decisions that eventually led to them, right? Being in that moment where they made out with someone or something else that they shouldn't have.

Well, we're not very good with the future in general, right? When we think something good's going to happen, we have this affective forecasting problem is what they call it. So we, we think that something good is going to be much better than it's actually going to be emotionally. And then if there's something aversive coming up, we think it's actually going to be much worse than it really is.

Well, we're not very good with the future in general, right? When we think something good's going to happen, we have this affective forecasting problem is what they call it. So we, we think that something good is going to be much better than it's actually going to be emotionally. And then if there's something aversive coming up, we think it's actually going to be much worse than it really is.

Well, we're not very good with the future in general, right? When we think something good's going to happen, we have this affective forecasting problem is what they call it. So we, we think that something good is going to be much better than it's actually going to be emotionally. And then if there's something aversive coming up, we think it's actually going to be much worse than it really is.

And then we get to the experience and sometimes we're disappointed, like for the positive thing, I call it the prom effect where you think the prom is going to be this amazing night and all magical and, Most people will tell you their problem is a little bit disappointing, right? And that's because they made it out to be the thing it wasn't going to be. You know, same thing with negative events.

And then we get to the experience and sometimes we're disappointed, like for the positive thing, I call it the prom effect where you think the prom is going to be this amazing night and all magical and, Most people will tell you their problem is a little bit disappointing, right? And that's because they made it out to be the thing it wasn't going to be. You know, same thing with negative events.

And then we get to the experience and sometimes we're disappointed, like for the positive thing, I call it the prom effect where you think the prom is going to be this amazing night and all magical and, Most people will tell you their problem is a little bit disappointing, right? And that's because they made it out to be the thing it wasn't going to be. You know, same thing with negative events.

A lot of times if you just, for example, get into your email and do the thing, right? For me personally, I'm like, this isn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. So the same thing applies to relationships where sometimes we put unreasonable emotional expectations on what a relationship will provide us. And by the same token, if there's something hard to do in a relationship,

A lot of times if you just, for example, get into your email and do the thing, right? For me personally, I'm like, this isn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. So the same thing applies to relationships where sometimes we put unreasonable emotional expectations on what a relationship will provide us. And by the same token, if there's something hard to do in a relationship,

A lot of times if you just, for example, get into your email and do the thing, right? For me personally, I'm like, this isn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. So the same thing applies to relationships where sometimes we put unreasonable emotional expectations on what a relationship will provide us. And by the same token, if there's something hard to do in a relationship,