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Through foster care, which I think is like people are like, oh, well, don't adopt through the private industry or adoption industry.

Adopt through foster care.

Well, listen, it's your intention though.

If your intention is to be a parent and I want to have a child and raise and be a mom or be a dad, then you should not go adopt from foster care because that system is designed for children in crisis and to eventually have reunification.

Um, it almost makes me a better question.

Have you ever asked your adoptive mom?

Why did, why didn't you adopt through foster care?

I mean, no one's really thinking about that.

But that fear is organic and natural and that maybe you're afraid of naturally connecting to the child that you have.

To fear something so biologically natural and organic, it's like – and I think the doctor agencies prey on that fear.

So have you talked to your biological mom?

Does your biological mom have any relationship with your adoptive mom?

Even with all the visits and stuff that you had growing up?

Right.

But did you ever feel like you could make that choice on your own?

Um, so I think a lot of adoptees, when I, when I asked certain questions, they go, well, I, I wanted to, but I, I, I, and I'll, and they, my parents never told me that I couldn't, but I never felt the freedom.

Yes.

It's that, you know what I'm saying?

The primary, always.

No, I agree.