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My partner wants to be upfront or honest with her, and I don't want to be deceptive or dishonest with her, in large part because I don't want her to feel ashamed about our relationship model. But I'm also worried she'll mention the sleepovers to my family, my mom, go. Or her friends, friends, parents, and I'm just really not ready for that kind of openness. I don't know if I ever will be.

My partner wants to be upfront or honest with her, and I don't want to be deceptive or dishonest with her, in large part because I don't want her to feel ashamed about our relationship model. But I'm also worried she'll mention the sleepovers to my family, my mom, go. Or her friends, friends, parents, and I'm just really not ready for that kind of openness. I don't know if I ever will be.

I also feel like too much information might confuse her or just be unnecessary at this age. So far, I've just been saying, I don't know where he is when she asks. So what's the best balance here between honesty with your kids and protecting our privacy or maybe more so my needs for privacy or discretion?

I also feel like too much information might confuse her or just be unnecessary at this age. So far, I've just been saying, I don't know where he is when she asks. So what's the best balance here between honesty with your kids and protecting our privacy or maybe more so my needs for privacy or discretion?

Should I just finally get out of my closet and be more open or is it okay to keep things vague for now?

Should I just finally get out of my closet and be more open or is it okay to keep things vague for now?

Hey Dan, 33-year-old woman calling from Pennsylvania about a friendship question. So my maid of honor, who I've known since we were 14, so about two decades, and I have been fighting a lot lately. It seems like every six months or so, there is something that comes up that she says, She had her feelings hurt. I upset her. We need to talk about it in person.

Hey Dan, 33-year-old woman calling from Pennsylvania about a friendship question. So my maid of honor, who I've known since we were 14, so about two decades, and I have been fighting a lot lately. It seems like every six months or so, there is something that comes up that she says, She had her feelings hurt. I upset her. We need to talk about it in person.

And it seems like the main thing is that there's just like a disconnect between what she expects out of me from our friendship and the type of friend that I am. So this last situation... She put together a film festival and invited me to it. And I assumed it was just one weekend that I'd already made plans for. So I told her, I'm really sorry. I don't think I'm going to be able to swing it.

And it seems like the main thing is that there's just like a disconnect between what she expects out of me from our friendship and the type of friend that I am. So this last situation... She put together a film festival and invited me to it. And I assumed it was just one weekend that I'd already made plans for. So I told her, I'm really sorry. I don't think I'm going to be able to swing it.

You know, can I make a donation instead to support you? And it kind of spiraled into...

You know, can I make a donation instead to support you? And it kind of spiraled into...

her telling me a few days later that she has been crying multiple times this week because she was so hurt by the fact that i didn't actually open the link and look at the schedule before saying i couldn't go and i explained you know i just made an assumption i'm sorry but it sort of spiraled from there and i had a lot of feelings about

her telling me a few days later that she has been crying multiple times this week because she was so hurt by the fact that i didn't actually open the link and look at the schedule before saying i couldn't go and i explained you know i just made an assumption i'm sorry but it sort of spiraled from there and i had a lot of feelings about

How I feel like this is an ongoing theme where every six months or so she gets really upset with me over something that I don't personally see as a huge deal. And I do try to make it up to her in my own way. I try to make compromises, but that doesn't really seem like it's good enough for her, which is like... really frustrating and just seems really, really tumultuous for a friendship.

How I feel like this is an ongoing theme where every six months or so she gets really upset with me over something that I don't personally see as a huge deal. And I do try to make it up to her in my own way. I try to make compromises, but that doesn't really seem like it's good enough for her, which is like... really frustrating and just seems really, really tumultuous for a friendship.

So we landed on, I need space. And I told her that. She said that is the opposite of what she needs. She wants to talk about it, but okay. I really just don't know what to do to prevent this from happening in the future. I do try really hard to listen to her, but I kind of feel like I am tiptoeing around her all the time and

So we landed on, I need space. And I told her that. She said that is the opposite of what she needs. She wants to talk about it, but okay. I really just don't know what to do to prevent this from happening in the future. I do try really hard to listen to her, but I kind of feel like I am tiptoeing around her all the time and

There's a lot of situations where her feelings get hurt and the way she approaches it is just... feels very, very guilt-trippy whenever she's been telling me she's been crying all week and I need to apologize differently than I did before and that I should have known how much this meant to her, etc, etc.

There's a lot of situations where her feelings get hurt and the way she approaches it is just... feels very, very guilt-trippy whenever she's been telling me she's been crying all week and I need to apologize differently than I did before and that I should have known how much this meant to her, etc, etc.